Boys and Girls Homes Blog

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"I have a dream..."

By Gary Faircloth

When Martin Luther King evoked these words in front of the Lincoln Memorial, he rallied all of us to realize we need to stop and reach out to others regardless of any differences.

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An Answer to Prayer

By Mike Garrell

My brother-in-law likes to tell a story about how God answers prayers but how we need to be ready to recognize the answer to prayer. It is a familiar story.

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"Culture Matters"

By Rev. John Cobb

If you hang around me for any period of time, you will know that I am a diehard Clemson Tiger fan. Head coach Dabo Swinney has accomplished amazing things with the young men he has recruited. If you asked him why, he would tell you that it is an outcome of the culture that you create.

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An Incomplete Charge

By Melissa Hopkins

Have you ever put your phone on a charger and returned after a significant time to find the charge incomplete?

I have - three times in the past few weeks. I found myself annoyed and frustrated. While I have taken the steps to prevent that frustration from happening again, it got me thinking about our children and families in care through Boys and Girls Homes.

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Are You A Missionary

By Gary Greene

If you've ever heard me addressing a civic club or district meeting, you have probably heard me talk about how our children come from all corners of our state.

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What the Lord Means to Me

Spiritual development is one of the needs Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina commits to addressing in our mission statement. The following essay was written to Pastor Joe and our ministry team by one of our residents. It is used with their permission.

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Family

By Ray Cockrell

It is that time of year when we often think of family and enjoy spending time with our loved ones. As the years roll on, I become more aware of the importance of family and just what it means. So many of the children in our care have no concept of what a family is supposed to be; so we strive to create a family environment in each of our cottages. We talk often about the Boys and Girls Homes Family - but what does that mean?

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Ghosts of Christmas

By Rev. John Cobb

Ghosts of Christmas for kids in care a B&GH "Christmas Carol" isn't a story about some stingy "Scrooge", but is instead a look through the eyes of a "Tiny Tim" told in a visual format.

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Christmas Spirit Flo(w)

By Tracey Natale

Hurricane Flo may have hit our area hard but it did not crush our Christmas spirit. Hurricane Florence wreaked havoc in our area September 2018. Our Boys and Girls Homes residential campus, as well as many of our licensed foster homes, were affected by this massive storm system that flooded our communities. Many people were left without power for days and homes were flooded. However, this natural disaster did not keep us down for long. In the days immediately following this storm, people came together to help support the communities devastated.

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Perfect set up for Failure

By David Passmore

In North Carolina we have approximately 14, 000 children ages from birth to eighteen years of age in our foster care systems. The priority for the Department of Health and Human Services is to protect children from harm - specifically physical abuse, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse. This unfortunately can be life threatening and traumatizing for a child.

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By Melissa Hopkins

In 1989, a very somber doctor told my parents that my grandfather would not live to see 1990. My grandfather not only saw the new decade, he lived to see the early years of the new millennium.

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 Heart shaped drop of water Something in the Water

By Mike Garrell

Forty-three years. Forty-one years. Thirty-nine years. Thirty-one years. Twenty-nine years. These are some of the special anniversaries celebrated at Boys and Girls Homes this year. These are not wedding anniversaries. And these are not birthdays. No, these are the "work" anniversaries of some very dedicated Boys and Girls Homes staff who have been meeting the needs of abused and neglected kids for many, many, many years.

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 A sad teen with a Christmas tree The Night Before Christmas (Re-imagined)

By Rev. John Cobb

In this holiday season, Rev. John Cobb applied his creative skills to re-imagine the classic poem by Clement Clarke Moore to reflect the experiences of so many of the children we serve at B&GH.

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Thanksgiving Gratitude

By Melissa Hopkins

Thanksgiving is a holiday for gathering together in gratitude. Here at Boys and Girls Homes, we celebrate with a campus wide Thanksgiving dinner prior to the official holiday. While this is done strategically to allow staff to spend the actual holiday with family and friends, it also allows for an expansion of the gratitude filled celebration.

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 Grinch at Christmas Celebration Holiday Visits

By Gary Greene

Thanksgiving and Christmas bring a lot of visitors to our campus to bring presents to our children and contribute to the overall festiveness of this time. We are highly thankful for the difference you make in the lives of our kids.

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 Luke 6:48 A Word

By Pastor Joe Kennedy

I'm going to ask you to think of a word. When I do, tell me what you see?

Ready?

Here is the word:

Hurricane.

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I Remember Where I Was….
By Ray Cockrell

I remember specifically where I was on September 11, 2001 when the twin towers fell.  I remember the minute the Challenger exploded.  A lot of people I know can tell me specifically where they were when Kennedy was assassinated.  Significant times in our lives have an impact and we mark that time in our memory.  I also remember that time when our work here at Boys and Girls Homes really hit home for me.  It had an impact and it is imbedded in my memory.

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Compassion
By Dr. Geraldine Bradshaw

This quote by Dr. Seuss highlights the importance of compassion, one of the three characteristics emphasized in our Thomas Academy motto.

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Life on display
By Donna Yalch

As I was contemplating what I would write in my blog I kept going back to a trip I took recently to our Community Based Services Pink Hill Office.  To get there, I drove through Chinquapin and Beulaville, a couple of small towns in rural North Carolina. Along the way, I passed home after home with all their belongings on the side of the road.

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 Unloading supply donation truck after Hurricane Florence Team Work: Community helping Community
By David Passmore

 

I remember when I was in little league baseball, my coach would yell and scream "team work guys!" As a kid, playing baseball, I never understood the meaning of teamwork. But now on any given day in my office mail, I will receive three or four marketing brochures to train you on how to develop teamwork. But what is teamwork?


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 Hurricane Florence damage to Roxy's Place Recovering from Florence
By Gary Faircloth

 

Hurricane Florence had a significant impact on our Boys and Girls Homes campus.


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y Mike Garrell

As you drive into Fayetteville, N.C., the green road signs proudly declare, “This is the city of heroes.” They are correct, as Fayetteville and more specifically, Fort Bragg, is the home of the 82nd Airborne. These are some of our bravest war fighters. In time of crisis, these courageous front-line soldiers are called on to engage in some of the most dangerous battles. They are directed to literally “jump” into enemy territory and fight hand-to-hand combat to protect our nation and preserve our way of life. These soldiers are easily recognized by the distinctive AA maroon patch on their uniforms.

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Preparation
By Melissa Hopkins

 

More than 200 people stepped toward the starting line for the Take the Lake Personal Endurance Challenge, listening to the instructions provided by the event coordinators. For many, this more than 16 mile walk/run was the culmination of years of preparation. For others, this was the training run for an upcoming marathon. Yet, each person at that line had taken time to prepare for the day.


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 Brain plugged into a computer The Ultimate Memory Storage Device - Why do I remember what I want to forget?
By Rev. John Cobb

I will never forget where I was and what I was doing on September 11, 2001. I watched the scenes play over and over again on TV and in my mind. Those images are burned into this ultimate memory storage device I have between my ears.

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Our Legacy Partners
By Gary Greene

 

Have you ever been a member of a civic club? Are you currently a member?


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 Dr Fred Craddock

Child of God 
By Pastor Joe Kennedy

Here at Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina we serve children with many different backgrounds. They come from varying family situations - many without a good or even any relationship with their father.

One of our favorite praise songs to sing is Good, Good Father.

This combination brought to mind a story shared by Fred Craddock, who we introduced in an earlier post.

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 Facing the Giants Theatrical Poster Facing the Giants

By Ray Cockrell

In 2006 an inspirational movie came out by the name of Facing the Giants. It is a movie about Grant Taylor, a Christian high school football coach who faces personal family challenges as well as the attempt of local parents to replace him. His team, the Shiloh Eagles, never had a winning season in the six years he coached the boys. 

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 Residential cottage  Why do I have to move?
By David Passmore

There is a universal understanding that children need an environment that embraces safety, food and love. When children receive this at the critical times in their development they will thrive and grow.

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 Dr Geraldine Bradshaw  A Place of Dreams

By Dr. Geraldine Bradshaw

School is a place where everyone is allowed to dream….

Teachers, administrative staff, support staff… children … parents… are allowed to dream.

Teachers dream of ways to REACH students right where they are.

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Making a Difference

By Donna Yalch

Being a social worker is never boring. Tiring yes, boring no. For the last 17 years I have worked in the non-profit field with foster parents and adoptive parents. One of the greatest challenges that I have faced is recruiting foster parents. 

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Artistic Expression

By Melissa Hopkins

“Isn’t this relaxing?”

I had to laugh at my daughter’s question as we sat coloring. The humor for me was that I had asked my mother the same question in a similar situation many years before. It is incredible how we naturally recognize in our youth the activities that can relax and refresh us.

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Seeing is Believing

By Gary Greene

In the Leamon Rogers Memorial Chapel at Boys and Girls Homes, one of the stained glass windows shows Jesus surrounded by several children. The verse inspiring this window comes from Matthew 19:14:

“But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” (KJV)

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“Freedom”

By Pastor Joe Kennedy

Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina has a special program called World of Work. Provided through a generous donation, WOW allows each eligible youth to have a campus related job. WOW teaches them interview skills, job skills, responsibility with wages and savings among other things.

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Just One Drop

By Ray Cockrell

I recently had the opportunity to hear a minister speak to a large group of boy scouts at a Sunday morning worship service. The speaker began with letting one drop of water fall from a standard dropper. As it fell he asked those watching about how much power that one drop of water has. He was met with some chuckles, laughter and a few sarcastic comments that all sent the message – one drop of water doesn’t do much.

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Dream Work

By Dr. Geraldine Bradshaw

"Dreams don't work unless YOU do the work"

It is wonderful to have dreams and to set your goals according to your dreams, but you must be willing to PUT IN THE WORK!!!! to make dreams a reality!!!

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 Dr Fred Craddock

“Listen”

By Pastor Joe Kennedy

Imagine. You’re sitting. Silent. In front of you is one of the Top Ten Speakers of all time. What will he say?

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The Need is Greater Than Ever

By Gary Faircloth

You can see the headlines everywhere about the opioid crisis and the destructive impact on families.

We see the impact every day as vulnerable children are taken from their homes as the family deals with the addiction that leads so frequently to abuse and neglect.

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Safety

By Melissa Hopkins

“Get up and get out!”

The tone of my father’s voice left no room for questions as my sister and I climbed out of bed in the middle of the night. We followed the family evacuation plan to meet at the curb in front of our home, meeting our brother there. As we stood waiting for further instruction, a car horn began to blare from beside the house. Then we saw the flames erupting from our minivan, still parked beside our home.

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A Meaningful Ride

By Gary Greene

You could hear the gathering roar of 150 motorcycles as they neared the Boys and Girls Homes campus recently for the annual May Lake Waccamaw Ride. Our children were waiting at the Gary Jones Pavilion and you could see them suddenly perk up as the sound increased.

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Two Roads Diverged Re-imagined

By Rev. John Cobb

In honor of the Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina community commitment to Growth and Change, Rev. John Cobb applied his creative skills to re-imagining Robert Frost’sThe Road Not Takento reflect the needs of the children we serve.

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Passion vs. Benefit

By Ray Cockrell

You could feel the tension filling the room as the discussion turned to the new tax act responsible for the broadest changes to our tax code since the mid 1980’s.

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What are Schools?

By Dr. Geraldine Bradshaw

Schools are not "holding pens" where we place children so that they are out of the way for the day.

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Practicing Emotional Intelligence

By Melissa Hopkins

I was recently watching a rerun of NCIS where one of the agents was having a conversation with a psychologist. The psychologist was trying to help the man deal with several traumatic events happening at the same time. She pulled out a sheet of paper with a circle of faces that displayed different emotions and tried to get him to identify what he was feeling. She was trying to get him to practice Emotional Intelligence.

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A Fostering Journey

By Bianca Richardson

Fostering has brought my husband and me on this amazing journey over the last eight months and it’s been both incredibly easy and incredibly hard.

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 John 16:33

Hold Onto Hope

By Kristen Dewberry

In today's age of technology, we have the ability to stay connected and updated on current events in a matter of seconds.

 But what happens when this convenience and constant connection of information becomes too much?

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Changing the question

By Melissa Hopkins

“What is wrong with her? Why would she react that way? All they have done is show her love and support!”

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Treasured memory

By Gary Greene

Often times, I am privileged to give campus tours to our supporters. During a recent tour with members of one of our many civic club supporters, we stopped for a few moments to visit with a long-time counselor and staff member. One of the visitors asked a simple question:

“What moment has been your most treasured memory in your years at Boys and Girls Homes?”

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The Good Doctor

By Pastor Joe Kennedy

We were at the hospital, waiting for word. President Gary Faircloth and his wife Betty had come to pray with and support one of our B&GH teen mothers while her baby was in surgery.

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Take the Stairs to Financial Health

By Ray Cockrell

I was with my doctor for an annual checkup a few weeks ago and he encouraged me to take advantage of more opportunities for exercise and activity. He even pulled out the traditional example to “take the stairs” to be more active rather than just ride along in an elevator!

http://www.boysandgirlshomes.org/About/Take-the-Stairs-to-Financial-Health

   

Teens at a table working on homework 

Why do you show up?

By Dr. Geraldine Bradshaw

Why do you show up...

…when you’re so tired your brain says "Stay Home You Just Left There"?

Why do you show up...

…when you know that you will never get accomplished what is on your "To Do List"?

Why do you show up...

…when your body aches so bad you are not sure which area to pray for?

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Nose Goes

By Rev. John Cobb

The trashcan is a smelly, overflowing mess. I provide a gentle reminder to my kids that it needs to be emptied. Both girls yell “Nose Goes” and reach for the tip of their nose. The basic idea is that the last one to put their finger to the end of their nose has to complete the undesirable task. There was no personal responsibility, just a “dirty job” for the loser.

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What does it take to change organizational culture?

By David Passmore

We’ve all heard it… “Things never change here” or “We’ve never done it that way before”

One of the biggest challenges for large organizations is communication breakdown, both within and between departments.

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Why are we here?

By Courtney Allen

Some days are draining at work, especially when you are one of the only sane voices for the little people who have no choice to be in their positions.

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