Promotion to Confidence

Recently one of our youth wrote a letter to her staff to self-advocate for a promotion to Confidence, the third level of our social skills development program. It is shared here with her permission.

I’m writing this letter to let you know how important it is for me to earn my promotion to Confidence. Moving up a level comes with more responsibilities and more expectations. Moving to Confidence will help me better understand the different choices I can make. I feel that God wants me to move up to another level, so I can encourage others and help them grow. I want to leave the past in the past and carry on with my future. I just want to say thank you to all the staff who have helped me and pushed me to be the person I am now. But most of all, I really thank God for directing me. I know that a small problem could be a major problem if it’s not fixed. I want to be trusted. I just hope I get another chance with all of you so I can be moved up.


Reading these words, I am so imShadow figure with arms raised in victorypressed with the confidence she demonstrated in putting her thoughts on paper to advocate for herself. Having spoken with her on several occasions, I am aware of how big a step this was for her. I am happy to share that she received the promotion and is taking that next step forward.

Her progress in these skills is just part of what the B&GH experience is meant to be for youth coming from places of abuse and neglect. I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to witness the transformations that bring these children from a place of hurt to a place of confidence with an eye toward the future.

Melissa Hopkins is the Director of Public Relations and Marketing for Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina.

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