Revisiting Life On Display

Last week I was heading to our office in Kinston on Highway 41. Back in the fall, after Hurricane Florence, the devastation on this road was horrific. People’s lives were out on the road and it was obvious that people were not able to live in their home.

Fast-forward five months. I am driving to our new office in Kinston, again traveling on 41. It was great to see people’s belongings not on the road as I drove by. The homes were all in different stages of being reconstructed. You could see where some properties had temporary housing beside their permanent home. It was still sad, but progress has been made.

This made me reflect on the foster children we work with. When they first go to a foster home all of their belongings are scattered and they feel that their life is a disaster. Yet, when they are living in a stable home, even if it is temporary, they begin to reconstruct their lives from the trauma they have experienced. It is a slow process that takes a lot of work. The foster parents have to be consistent and try different ways of rebuilding the children’s self esteem, confidence, and also provide them with a new way of looking at the world.

Just like with the homes that can be seen from the road, the outside might not look that different, but the inside is totally different. Sometimes with foster children the outside might not look that different. They might be “cleaned up” and have newer clothes, but the real change is on the inside. The children are feeling different about themselves, which, in turn, changes their behavior. The most significant changes come from the inside out.

We are always in need of foster parents to help reconstruct hurting children. We need foster parents that are willing to work hard, be consistent, be patient, and see the small changes that lead to transformation and healing in the children. If you or someone you know wants to be a part of reconstructing a life and making it shine from the inside out, please let us know. We are always looking for people who want to impact a child’s life.

Donna Yalch is the Vice President for Community Based Services at Boys and Girls Homes of NC.


Learn more about becoming a foster parent, call 877-211-5322 or visit our foster care page.


Read previous post: Beauty Connection

Read next post: Empty