Practicing Emotional Intelligence


I was recently watching a rerun of NCIS where one of the agents was having a conversation with a psychologist. The psychologist was trying to help the man deal with several traumatic events happening at the same time. She pulled out a sheet of paper with a circle of faces that displayed different emotions and tried to get him to identify what he was feeling. She was trying to get him to practice Emotional Intelligence.


Sanctuary Community CommitmentsEmotional intelligence is the Sanctuary® Theme of the month at Boys and Girls Homes and something we try to practice on a daily basis. Before every meeting, whether with staff or with youth, we go around the group and ask, “How are you feeling today?” The goal of the question is to not only allow the individual to examine how he or she feels, but also for everyone to get an understanding of the group dynamic for the meeting.


Our Sanctuary® Coordinator John Cobb shared four tips for practicing Emotional Intelligence.


  • Be mindful – This practice allows you to be present and aware of what is happening in and around you.
  • Be aware – When someone asks how you are feeling, honestly sharing the emotion that most closely resembles how you feel right now.
  • Be positive – Negative emotions spread faster than positive ones. Try to be strength-based and positive even when it is difficult because of others.
  • Be kind – Treat others the way you would want to be treated. Do random acts of kindness and make someone’s day.


Take the time today to start practicing Emotional Intelligence by checking in with yourself and those around you.


Melissa Hopkins is the Director of Public Relations and Marketing at Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina.


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